My eighteen-month-old won't hold my hand in parking lots, and likes to break free and run. Lately his independence is getting the best of me. What book/method/thing can I use to help?
Starting as early as nine months, children can begin to understand basic consequences. One method that works well and requires little effort on a day-to-day basis is 1-2-3 Magic written by Thomas Phelan. The program addresses obnoxious behavior, unnecessary behaviors (including basic things such as nail biting), and encouraging good behaviors.
The program is easy for parents to follow, and gives both mom and dad a consistent idea of how to react when the child does something undesirable. The method remains positive while creating guidelines for interactions in public and at home. The program also allows children to be just that, children. They are given three opportunities to correct the problem. Phelan's method points out that a parent who engages in "Too Much Talking" or "Too Much Emotion" will lead to failure. For more information on this book, check it out of your local library, shop online, or borrow a copy from the Bellani Maternity library.
Kelly LaChance-Guertin BA, CCE, CD (DONA), CLC, has been a birth and postpartum doula for the past five years. She is currently a certified birth doula through DONA (Doulas of North America) and a certified childbirth educator. As the co-owner of Bellani Maternity and the mother of two, she experiences first-hand the struggle of balancing work and family, as well as the realities of raising children. Visit to learn more about Kelly’s one-stop resource for pregnancy and parenting.